As a child, I can remember growing up hearing my parental figures telling me regularly, “You don’t want to burn those bridges because you never know when you’re going to have to cross back over it.”. Today I feel like we are all lost in so much anger, fear, hatred, that sometimes we forget about the importance of building bridges. More importantly, the need to maintain those bridges we built. Some of which we may have built decades ago.
I think Isaac Newton said it best when he made the statement:
We Build Too Many Walls And Not Enough Bridges– Isaac Newton
Building Bridges Video
As a people, we do tend to cower in fear. Not just as a Norse people but people in general. As a result of living in a state of fear, we tend to build more walls thinking its safer. And maybe it is. But then that poses the question of “Is it really living as the gods intended?”. Much like anything, there is a process for building bridges and we have to start with the foundation. Building a good hearty bridge that will carry the load of you and many with you requires a solid base. How do you get that solid base?
Where Will Your Bridge Take You
Just like when you are planning any road trip, you have to have some degree of a plan of where you want to go. A goal if you will. Sure don’t get me wrong there are times where we just jump in the car and go vroom and we are off. But generally speaking, we know what we are after. We set goals. We know when we are going to have to stop for gas. If we are going to need a room for a night. We know if we are going to need to plan for meals.
No difference here. You have to set goals and know exactly what it is your wanting to accomplish with this bridge. Now please keep in mind this is all a metaphor for building relationships, connections, and bonds. Sometimes with others, maybe with other companies, or maybe even with the gods and nature themselves. As an example building an altar in the woods to Freya. You have to know what you want to come of that so that you know how to build it and what to offer her.
Buidling the Foundation
You have to start by recognizing what it is that is in your way and is keeping you from building those good hearty bridges. It is not the same for everyone. For some, it might be trust, while for others it may be fear, and yet others it may be a lack of self-confidence. It makes no difference what is limiting your ability to build bridges, only you have the ability to change it. Only you have the knowledge to know exactly what it’s going to take. Sure you can ask for help, and when you need to you absolutely should! Don’t let pride be one of the weaknesses of your foundations.
Know Your Strengths & Weaknesses
You don’t need to necessarily point these out to anyone else. But by knowing them you know when you will need help and what you will need help with. You also know where you will be able to help others in their times of need. It will allow you to perform general maintenance on your bridges where you are strongest.
Here is an example. Say I build a relationship with a friend and I know that they are dealing with a lot of drama. But I know that I don’t deal well with drama or can’t handle listening to it very well before getting sucked into it. Those are my weaknesses. So for the sake of my friend Id try a couple of things here. One I would not be the one listening to their shit, and two I would find another mutual friend that I feel could and would do much better as structural support for that bridge. Now did I help directly, no? But I was still able to keep my friendship bridge open and help the friend in need.
Building Bridges Takes Time
Don’t be afraid to think outside the box. Using this practice and know owing yourself like this can be applied to all facets of your lives. From helping one another as they face struggles to build your own relationships with the gods and goddesses. Keep in mind no matter what you are building a bridge to or for that nothing happens overnight and they will take time. And even once they are started it takes time to maintain them. And like I stated earlier be careful not to burn them down because you don’t know when you may need to cross it again. Think long and hard about if your ready to give one up before you do and if the end result is better or worse for you.