“Friends” and “Fathers” are terms all used very loosely and are words that are a lot. Do you use it at all when it comes to speaking of fathers? What about friends? This discussion is not the same type that is normally discussed. Feeling that it is close to fathers day, it is fitting to discuss it. So what is it that is meant in the context of this question.
“Friends” and “Fathers” By Definition
Let’s take a look at the definition of both words. We will be using Wikipedia.
A father is the male parent of a child. Besides the paternal bonds of a father to his children, the father may have a parental, legal, and social relationship with the child that carries with it certain rights and obligations. An adoptive father is a male who has become the child’s parent through the legal process of adoption. These definitions seem very impersonal. Father to me is a very personal and endearing term, only reserved for those that are worthy. The term to me is overused just as the word love is overused. As for the adoptive father myself, I feel that my love for my step kids is a bond just as strong.
Now let’s try and take a look at the definition for the word friend.
There are many forms of friendship, some of which may vary from place to place, certain characteristics are present in many types of such bonds. Such characteristics include affection; kindness, love, virtue, sympathy, empathy, honesty, altruism, loyalty, generosity, forgiveness, mutual understanding and compassion, enjoyment of each other’s company, trust, and the ability to be oneself, express one’s feelings to others, and make mistakes without fear of judgment from the friend.
Again a word that gets lost in its actual meaning or root. A friend is a very close bond to another, also giving an exception to your personal feelings to help that person. I do not have very many close ones, but the ones I do have have a very strong bond to me.
Now, what is the deal with the definitions of both of these words? Why bring it up? It is becoming more and more apparent to me how my relationship with my own father has drastically changed over the years.
My father, he was very stern growing up and strict. If I were to make mistakes, there would be a punishment for them depending on the severity. I never really felt that I could just go to him with all issues especially, the embarrassing ones.
Now being older and having more kids I find my father being my best friend. I can literally go to him with whatever it may be and he will not bat an eye. Even if it is embarrassing. I do understand that some of you may have grown up with no father, and I am sorry for that, but you can also be the difference. To your son or daughter, you can change that cycle. Your children will need to be guided, but don’t forget they will grow up and will need a connection with you.
To all of you that have stepchildren, I applaud you. Keep that love for them strong. Even if they are not blood we all share that same bloodline in one form or another. They will love you unconditionally blood or not.
What does all that have to be with being Norse? Family is a very integral part of the culture. You defend and protect your family as Norseman. Stand strong and show your children how to stand strong and be strong members of society. Stand strong my brothers, be like the All-father wise and calculating when molding your children.
I guess I just really want to give an ovation to all the friends and fathers out there.
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Please comment on your journey as a father would love very much to hear it!